It's snowing where I am. It got me thinking about how no two snowflakes are the same (supposedly). Often times, life changing situations are like snowflakes. As in, there are so many variables at play that it's easy to think of all the other ways that events could play out. But the fact remains that there's no changing it. And, even if we could, there's no way to ever be sure what the outcome would be if we switched a few of the variables around. The outcomes could be the same or worse.
I'm not saying this to say that it's detrimental to imagine how various scenarios would play out. We can all stand to benefit from some exercising of the imagination. I am, however, saying that it can be detrimental to get too caught up in all the different shapes life can take, and neglect to recognize the shape that it is taking.
It doesn't do any good to worry about how things might be. Worrying can increase cortisol levels, leaving us in even worse shape than we were during the initial misfortune.
There's no sense subjecting ourselves to such torment over a moment as unpredictable as the shape of a snowflake. So many factors come into play in each and every waking moment we experience. There's no sorting them, filtering out the undesirables, and achieving the best possible outcome each and every second of each and every day. Sometimes it's ok to embrace that part of life.